Friday, December 27, 2013

Life Lessons Learned from Asa James Dolak tragedy

Life Lessons Learned from Asa James Dolak tragedy

Asa James Dolak is the 19-year-old man suspected of torching his mother's home. He also is suspected of setting fire to an apartment that his 2-year-old son was in. The son narrowly escaped the fire. Asa James Dolak was shot in an officer-involved shooting at the same Torrance middle school he once attended, authorities said.

At 19 years-old, Asa James Dolak allegedly had been fighting with his ex-girlfriend -- the mother of his 2 year-old child -- on Christmas night. The heated argument escalated, with lots of name-calling, said officials said. In a teenage rage, the teenager Asa James Dolak then allegedly threatened his equally young girl-friend and a male friend who apparently was in the home at the time of the incident. Police allege that the young Asa James Dolak threatened the male visitor with a knife, and then became so angry that he punched out a TV and busted her phone.

Male Friend Witnesses Violence but offers little Resistance or direct Help

Nicholas Ruppert, apparently a male friend of the young ex-girl friend of James Dolak, was at the home when Dolak allegedly snuck in through the back door. He said Dolak had called his ex-girlfriend about 40 times in two hours. Despite the fact that the girl-friend had already obtained a re-strained order against the suspect, Ruppert managed to watch quite a bit of violence taking place. As stated above, the male fried of Dolak s girlfriend apparently witnessed a string of violent acts happening within feet of his face:a knife threat; punching out the TV; a busted telephone; furniture, physical attacks, etc. What was Nicholas Ruppert, an alleged male, doing all this time while the home of his female friend was being trashed? In an act of complete disrespect,and violence, Asa James Dolak proceeded to torch the home with a bottle of lighter fluid by placing the liquid on the living room floor. Instead of reporting that he intervened and physically restrained Asa James Dolak, Ruppert simply reports that he heard flames. Chaos of course erupted thereafter, and the girl-friend fled the house while a 2-year old baby was still there. It is appears that Nicholas Ruppert was either impotent of moral resolve or was powerless to deter an angry teenage boy.

What Lessons In Life Can we Learn from the Asa James Dolak tragedy

This is a tragedy that could have and should have been very easliy prevented. Local authorities should have been alerted of the increasing tone, and threatening phone calls made by Asa James Dolak to his former girl-friend. The police should have immediately went to charge Dolak with violating his restraining order.

The male that was with the former girl-friend should have deceptively kept Dolak on the telephone until police arrived while another person ensured the safety of the child and woman. Another lesson for any teengage mother is never associate with males who have have a violent streak. We can go on and on.

Asa James Dolak was angry, but the right communication tactics could have calmed him down. Never entrust your safety to a male who will not defend you. Dolak should have been immediately tackled the moment he became visible; or, the police should have been waiting.

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